Randumb Thoughts

Updates when the spirit moves me...

Personal Commentary about current events and issues brought to you by
William C. Walker of WILW Radio.


December 31, 2009

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Dear Kansas City or should I say Earth To McFly:

Or more specifically, to some of the people that I run into during the course of an average work day and while out shopping. This message is for you. I know that some of the people that this message is intended will read this because it is now evident that some of you have discovered the WILW Radio website. Good for you and perhaps it will enlighten a few of the numerous ignorant people that I have the misfortune to run into during the day both at work and while I am out and about running errands about what kind of person I am.

Just when I thought that there would be a little light at the end of the tunnel and that you were going to treat me with a little more respect, I discovered that I was wrong. I have to report that some of you are simply incapable of controlling your infantile behavior and acting like mature adults. It only takes a few rotten apples to spoil it for the entire bunch and you’ve certainly succeeded in that endeavor. I can admit when I’ve made a mistake. The first one was moving to Kansas City. And the second was even trying to talk to anyone.

Perhaps some of you have noticed that I don’t talk to you anymore or if I do talk to you, I keep the conversation to a bare minimum or even ignore you. You can thank your own personal behavioral problems or those of your predecessors. And in addition, a couple of people registered complaints against me to their superiors simply because they did not like some of the ideas that I presented to certain people. No four letter or abusive and hostile language, but simply ideas and opinions. You didn’t agree with them and chose to have me silenced. The PC (politically correct) Thought Police is in full force here. Well, I guess that is your prerogative because when I am away from home territory I have to expect to ruffle a few feathers with my Yankee personality. The socially arrested personality found in many of the people in Kansas City is stifling to say the least.

Now a message for some of the women that I run into frequently during the week especially through work. I have to admit that some of you have become more civil and even respectful over the last few months and I appreciate that. I don’t think you realize just how dangerous it is on the roads and I literally risk my life each day to arrive in one piece at your place of business. I always try to be civil towards customers even when I have a scowl on my face after nearly getting run off the road by a maniacal driver. I don’t treat you with disrespect and I always try to say “hello” and “thank you”. And I have not heard any women recently tell me they don’t want to go out with me. Only one that does not like me but I know that there are plenty of those. :-) You simply have to realize that just because a guy talks to you a little bit that he is not hitting on you. Perhaps it’s a cultural thing because I don’t experience that in other areas of the country and most definitely not in the Northeastern part of the country. We are more sophisticated than that. I’ll still talk to a few of you but if you are one of the people that have repeatedly insulted me over a long period of time then I don’t want to talk to you. I think you know who you are and I hope you have the intelligence to get the message and the maturity to handle it with some class. You didn’t want to talk to me before and I handled it appropriately. Well, now the shoe is on the other foot. I really don’t want to talk to some of you any more and we’ll just leave it at that.

It is evident that some people just don’t get it and still seem to think that while I am working I am there for their amusement or to be abused and fair game for your insults. Just in the last two to three weeks I had several very negative insults directed at me by more than one person in more than one establishment. And this includes shopping in area stores and restaurants. As a result I’ve stopped going to one local restaurant and I will probably change the supermarket that I shop at because in addition to dealing with some very surly help, I’ve also purchased a lot of food of questionable quality lately.

Clearly a pattern is developing here. In Kansas City it seems evident that you think the work place is a place to socialize first and work second. It’s a good thing you are not utilizing this philosophy in New England because you’d last about one month with that attitude in most work environments. The work environment is first and foremost a place to conduct business. It’s a place to create a product or provide a service to clients in order to increase sales and ultimately create a profit for a business.

It’s obvious you still can’t figure out why I am not dating anyone in Kansas City. I can tell by some of the comments that I receive from people. Visit Randumb Thoughts for September and it will pretty much illustrate why I am not asking any of you out. But I also think that I need to expound on this issue a bit further because even though I’ve mentioned to a few people why I don’t want to go out with women in Kansas City, apparently you can’t comprehend or are just too ignorant or obtuse to understand the situation. The following reasons as to why I am not dating any women during my stay in Kansas City including those that I’ve met through work:

1) When I moved here I only planned to stay here for a year or two and then move on. It is evident that I cannot achieve my goal of developing a commercial low power AM radio station in this area because of the limited number of communities in which the kind of station will work. In addition the number of available frequencies is extremely limited and I would need to be about 30 miles or further from downtown Kansas City in order to avoid receiving interference at least during the day from other stations. The other issue is what I perceive to be a lack of potential talent (experienced or non experienced) to work or volunteer at my station. Even if I did locate in a community 30 or more miles outside of KC I am not very confident that I can find the people I need to make this work and ultimately even a sales person to obtain advertising revenue.

2) I’m not a “love ‘em and leave ‘em” type of guy. In other words, I am not about to get involved in any kind of relationship with a member of the opposite sex knowing full well that I will be moving on at some point.

3a) Numerous women and even some men have told me on countless occasions that I am not liked. Many others have told me that they don’t want to go out with me when I have not even asked them out. Loons. Well, I am not in the habit of asking any women out in a region where I am so intensely disliked.

3b) I don’t like the attitude. I come from a region of the country which is comprised of Old Money. I’ve never dated a woman outside of New England and perhaps that should change. But I don’t like the attitude of the people that come from the New Money background in Kansas City and I am not all that inclined to get involved with your kind because you possess an elitist attitude that makes you “think” you are on a higher social stratus than myself. I hate to burst your bubble but that is simply not the case. I’ll date someone that is not from a similar socio economic background just as long as we are compatible and share some common interests.

4) I am not particularly fond of the women here that exceed the age of about 30 to 32 years. I’ve found most of you that are single (and plenty of the married women too) are rather crude and your behavior to be unrefined and obnoxious. Many of you I’d be ashamed to introduce to my family and even some of my friends because of your behavior. I’m not even that crazy about many of the women younger than the age of 30 either though I will say that at least a greater percentage of women under the age of 30 are civil when I’ve had to talk to them.

5a) I’ve noted that in Kansas City people think the work environment is a place to meet members of the opposite sex for dating. The way I was brought up I was educated that it is not wise to “play where you receive your pay”. Thus, over the years I’ve only dated one woman that I met at work and that turned out to be a total disaster. Never wanted to do it again after that experience some 25 years ago. I guess I can concede the fact that my way of thinking may be outdated on this issue and perhaps I do need to re-evaluate this particular issue and get with the times.

5b) Assuming that a woman I meet at work shows that she’s interested and the feeling is mutual, now I may at least consider asking her out. About two years ago a nice young lady about the age of 25 that I was acquainted with through work did ask me out but I deemed it best not to get involved. In retrospect that was a good decision at the time and I stand by it. Her career was taking her to different places than my own. Ultimately a long term relationship could not have evolved from this situation.

5c) Under no circumstance will I date a woman that holds a position of authority and a Title that could be used to lead to my termination. Someone like you has NO BUSINESS wanting to play around with someone in my current capacity of employment. I will immediately reject someone like this because it is very evident you’d only want to play around and not develop a relationship. In essence, these kinds of relationships , just like that between a male superior and female subordinate are socially unacceptable. I will consider dating someone in the sub early 30’s age bracket and who does not have the power to have me fired if the relationship sours.

6) I don’t want to have any short term relationships. If I am going to get involved with someone I want it to be with someone that would consider moving with me when I move out of Kansas City. Unfortunately I’ve only met two women here in nearly four years that don’t like it here and don’t want to stay here. One of those women was the one that asked me out.

7) I come from a different culture than your own. I was exposed to people from virtually every state in the USA and province in Canada along with dozens of other nations at an early age. I can tell from talking with many of you that you’ve never traveled very much beyond the Midwest and rarely get exposed to people from different cultures or at least those that differ from the kind you are accustomed to seeing in Kansas City. The vast majority of the people in this area hail from Kansas, Missouri, Iowa, Oklahoma and Nebraska.

8) I took the Myers and Briggs Learning Inventory and discovered my personality is ISTJ. If you go by what this test says perhaps only about five percent of the population will be compatible for personal relationships. Cut that figure in half to represent the percentage of women in the population that would be compatible and I am looking at only about 2.5 women for each one hundred that I meet. Not good odds especially in an area like Kansas City which is filled with very extroverted people, most of which are not compatible with my personality.

9) A significant number of people both men and women, have treated me like garbage over the years. I am not a masochist. I do not enjoy being treated like a zit by people that I never so much as laid a finger upon or even insulted. Thus, I am not about to get involved with people like you even if you do like me now.

10) I don’t have issues like these in other areas of the country. In other areas of the country, people that I know through work treat me far better. And surprisingly I have had a number of fairly attractive younger ladies that take a sincere interest in me especially those I’ve met outside of work. I’d rather date a 25 year old from Indiana or Ohio that works at a convenience store than most of the women in the Kansas City area, regardless of their age, beauty or self perceived social status.

To summarize. At this point in time, now that I’ve stayed in KC for about two years longer than expected, I may entertain the notion of dating someone. But... It will have to be someone that I perceive as compatible, under the age of 33, and looking for a permanent relationship and open to relocation to the community where I decide to launch my radio station. Take the Myers and Briggs Learning Inventory and find out what personality type you are and whether or not you are compatible with an ISTJ. :-) I’m not interested in dating any woman that thinks I am some kind of subservient male that your Dominatrix type of personality can walk all over. If you need a guy that you can dominate then find someone else. My Mother did not raise me to be that kind of boy. I’m a Ward Cleaver kind of guy when it comes to dating and relationships with the opposite sex. But knowing that I know about this area, I am probably better off waiting to find someone when I get to my new home.

I sincerely hope this will educate those people in the KC area that aren’t too comfortable with the fact that I am single, alone and not really looking for any female companionship at this time. You may never understand where I am coming from but in my eyes, you don’t need to anyway. :-)